What a week

I must say, I don’t believe I’ve had a week go so badly in many years.

Let’s start with Tuesday. I was supposed to write up a post detailing the chiropractor’s findings. Sorry I missed that, but I missed the chiropractor appointment. I hit a flat piece of metal on the interstate on the way. I made it to within 10 miles before my front tire went completely flat. I had gashed the tire badly and was lucky to make it off the highway. I rescheduled my appointment and limped over to the nearest tire store on my spare. Of course, had my tire not gone flat, I may not have realized how badly I need knew brake pads. So I consider it a blessing

Wednesday I woke up early with a serious migraine followed by 24 hours of fever and extreme nausea. I don’t know if I had a stomach bug that triggered a migraine or if the symptoms were just from the killer headache.

Thursday my husband had a tonsillectomy. The days since I’ve been caring for him.

On the bright side, I’m guest blogging for him while he’s out of commission. If you want to see the spiritual side of my writing, check out his blog: The Year of Prayer

My rescheduled chiropractor follow-up is in the morning. Hopefully I can get a post up shortly about that. I don't think my stiff neck is causing my head pain, but we'll see what he says. If treatment might help and isn't outrageously expensive I'll consider it.

Good night! Hopefully you’ll hear from me tomorrow.


Long Day

We spent the day celebrating my daughter’s thirteenth birthday. It was a great day, filled from beginning to end with family time.

So how does one cope with a day that starts early and ends late; a day that is non-stop?

  • First, eat well and stay hydrated. Meeting your body’s basic needs is step one in avoiding a massive headache.
  • Second, Ask for help. I’m usually the kind who sees what needs to be done and gets to work on it, at least when it comes to planning a family picnic. Even without headaches, in a family of 8 one person can’t handle everything. I’m always having to remind myself to delegate. Else wise,  my excellent husband comes to the rescue and tells me to stop and let him and the girls take care of it.
  • When it gets to be too much, take a short break. How do you do this in a van full of people? Close your eyes, lean back on the headrest, and try not to look miserable. Two reasons: briefly taking yourself out of the action quiets you down from the inside out; trying to stay positive and smile actually helps you feel better. Stress makes headaches worse. Take a moment to de-stress.
  • When you get back home, but it’s too early for bed, take a 30 minute nap. Or, if getting up after 30 minutes of sleep is impossible, take 30 minutes to sit quietly in the dark. Listen to calm music, pet a cat, whatever relaxes you.
  • Repeat God’s name, or a memorized prayer. Or if you are non-religious a self-affirming mantra.
  • Keep pushing through.
  • You can always rest tomorrow!

That being said, I don’t suffer as badly as some others I know of. I don’t usually have nausea or dizziness. I can manage my light and sound sensitivity with sunglasses and frequent pleas for calm. There are days when this list just can’t be accomplished. On those days: Pray for sleep and to wake with less pain and more wisdom.

Gimme a Break

It has been rough the past few weeks.

  • I ran out of FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) leave time, which meant that
  • I was warned that if I have any more absences I’ll be written up, which caused me to
  • Go to part time hours to help me not miss any more time, which led to the fact that
  • I no longer qualify for FMLA because I don’t work enough hours, so now
  • If I’m absent from a single shift I’ll get in trouble and I don’t have any recourse.

I thought working part time would help me with absences, and it has. I only work four and a half hours, five days per week. I’ve only had to come home mid shift one day since dropping my hours. But there have been days when I’ve really had to push myself to make it through. I’m sure my work has suffered a little, but you can’t go too wrong in retail, so I’m the only one who notices.

I hoped working part time would help me with homeschooling and housework, and it hasn’t. Since I have to force myself to go to work, no matter how I feel, I’m feeling worse at home. It’s like I have a limited energy reserve, and it can only carry me through half-way. Not being able to miss work, home feels the neglect.

One of my coping strategies is to hide how badly I feel and carry on. But it wears me out, and it shows in my dealings with the kids. I get short with them or I just don’t really notice what’s going on. They may have to tell me something 3 or more times to get my attention. I apologize or try to refocus, but the next day it’s back. They would probably say it’s not that bad. But I notice, and I don’t like it.

My goal is to improve.

I’m not sure how, but I’ll be praying, and trying to meditate.  That seems like a good start.

Oh, and Botox is scheduled for next week. Hopefully that will bring some relief.